Before the Floor
Practice Seven: Depletion Scale & Early Intervention
Dear Reader,
Let us talk about a woman I will call Simone.
Simone was a strategist at a consulting firm, the kind of woman whose professional precision was legendary inside her organization. She could read a room before she entered it. She could anticipate the question before it was asked. She had, in the language of her industry, excellent pattern recognition.
She could not read herself.
By the time Simone recognized she was depleted, she was already past depleted. The signal she had learned to honor was the floor, not the early tremor. The system had to fail before she believed it was failing. And so it failed, regularly and completely, in ways that required weeks of recovery rather than hours.
She told me, in one of our early sessions, that the burnout always came out of nowhere.
It did not come out of nowhere. It came from the 4 and the 5 she had been dismissing for months.
Most people don’t notice depletion until they’re at 8 out of 10, when intervention is difficult and recovery takes longer. This practice builds your capacity to notice the 4, the 5, and intervene before the crisis.
We were not taught to read our early warning signs. We were taught to push through them. Over time, we became so fluent in override that we stopped registering the signals as signals at all. We called the chronic tension normal. We called the shortened patience just how things are. We called the skipped meals efficiency.
This practice rebuilds the fluency of early detection, which most of us have never been offered. Not the fluency of crisis management, which most of us have thoroughly mastered.
For each level, identify your specific indicators. The categories below are a starting point. Your version will be more precise.
1 to 3 (Resourced): Relaxed body, curious mind, easy access to rest, present in your own life. You complete work while remaining connected to yourself.
4 to 6 (Early Warning): Jaw tension, shorter patience, skipping meals, snapping at people you love. The low-grade irritability that lives just beneath the surface of your performance.
7 to 8 (Significant): Headaches, cynicism, withdrawing from the people you love, crying more easily than usual. The body is no longer asking. It is insisting.
9 to 10 (Crisis): Illness, hopelessness, complete shutdown. Intervention at this level requires days. At level four, it requires thirty minutes.
Build these before you need them. The scale is inventory. The protocols are the practice.
At 4 to 5: Small adjustments. Cancel one optional thing. Add a break. Go to bed an hour earlier. The intervention is proportional to the signal.
At 6 to 7: Moderate intervention. Clear tomorrow’s schedule where possible. Delegate what doesn’t require you specifically. Reach out for support.
At 8 and above: Emergency protocol. Cancel everything non-essential. Full rest. Ask for help without the qualifying explanation.
Check your number at least twice daily until the practice becomes automatic. Most people, when they first begin, discover they have been operating at 6 or 7 and calling it normal. That discovery is not a diagnosis. It is the beginning of a different relationship with yourself.
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Reflection: At what number do you typically intervene? What is one early warning signal you have been calling something else, a personality trait, a busy season, just how things are, that belongs on your scale?
Before the collapse, there are always signs. Succession is a long study in what happens when people with the most access to power have the least access to themselves. Each character has a depletion scale so thoroughly buried they cannot locate the floor until they are already through it. Watch it not as spectacle but as pattern recognition. You will see, in the precision of their unraveling, the kind of signal-blindness this practice is designed to interrupt.
Succession, HBO Max
Nourish: Roasted beet and whipped ricotta salad with pomegranate at Gravitas, Washington D.C.
A note: Tail Up Goat, which held this recommendation for some time, has permanently closed. Gravitas carries the same attentiveness to ingredient and season, and the beet preparation there has the same quality of a meal designed for a body that has been running too long on adrenaline. Order something slow. Let the meal ask you to be present for it.
Gravitas, Washington D.C.
Read: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Van der Kolk’s central argument, that the body holds what the mind bypasses, is the clinical foundation for everything the Depletion Scale is asking you to practice. If you have ever found yourself surprised by the severity of your own shutdown, this book will give you language for what your body already knows. It is not a light read. It is a necessary one.
The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel van der Kolk — available at most independent booksellers
You are becoming. Take your time.
Doranna
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